I can build almost anything now. I’m learning what deserves to be built.

There’s something happening in my life right now that excites me.

An idea comes to mind, and I can start bringing it to life. A system that makes a business run better. A website. A tool that solves a problem I’ve been working around for years.

I can spend hours learning, coding, and figuring things out. I enjoy it. There’s a sense of possibility that makes me want to keep going.

But having that ability is bringing me back to a question I’ve been working on for twenty years:

What do I actually want to give my life to?

When I moved to Costa Rica in 2006, I was beginning to question the way I measured success. I had put so much energy into building a life that looked successful. I needed to discover what made life meaningful to me.

That discovery is still happening.

Today, I have a wife, daughters, businesses, community work, and more ideas than I could ever finish. I have people I love and work I care about. I also have the responsibility to decide how much of myself each of those things receives.

That’s where purpose becomes practical.

It shows up in my calendar. In whether I’m listening when someone speaks. In whether I can step away from something exciting because I’ve given it enough time for today.

I can believe deeply in being present and still get absorbed in what I’m building. I can talk about balance and then realize how much attention one part of my life has taken.

Those moments ask me to be honest.

Am I choosing where my energy goes? Have I left room for my health, my relationships, and my spiritual life? Does the way I spend my day reflect what I say matters?

My faith is becoming a deeper part of how I work through those questions.

I’m learning to ask God for direction, including when I already have an idea I’m excited about. I’m practicing leaving room to listen before filling every opening with another commitment.

Surrender is something I keep returning to. I still have decisions to make and work to do. I’m learning to do that work without needing to control every outcome or know exactly where it will lead.

I don’t find that easy all the time.

There’s a lot of satisfaction in making something happen. It can be harder to pause, be patient, or accept that an opportunity might belong to another season of my life.

But I want to grow in my ability to recognize that.

I want my businesses to grow. I also want to grow as a husband, a father, a friend, and a person of faith. I want to take care of my body and have the energy to enjoy the life I’m building. I want the people closest to me to experience my attention.

All of that deserves intention.

This is also the kind of conversation I want to make room for in my one-on-one coaching. An honest look at what someone is building, what it’s asking of them, and whether it reflects the life they want to live.

I bring my experience, my questions, and the practices I’m still learning to live by. There is value in having someone who will listen carefully and help you examine things you might keep moving past on your own.

Right now, I’m grateful for the ability to create. I want to keep learning and exploring what’s possible.

And I want to keep asking what deserves my attention, my energy, and my time.

When you look at where your attention went this week, what does it tell you about the life you’re building?

— Lisle Head